Do you ever worry that the chemistry will fizzle in your relationship?
Or does it seem as though the butterflies have already flown away?
Don’t worry. This video contains a game plan to save you.
You’ll be amazed how quickly the electricity can return when you do what I say in this video. You’ll start skipping school to make out with each other again in no time.
so my name is angel and I’ve been
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watching you you’re my go to youtube
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videos every time I have a heart break
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or something it is a happier time now so
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actually it’s a flip question now so
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because of your videos most especially
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the ones were in you have to cross out
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all the where you literally did the X
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remove all the wrong persons just to
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find the right guy
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so as soon as you meet a guy and he’s
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not giving you what you want he’s
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showing you that he’s low investment
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he’s flaky he comes in and out of your
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life you get rid of him because of that
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I was able to find our relationship I am
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in a relationship right now actually
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with an English guy as well who looks
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like dreams and I realized so he’s very
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supportive
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he really invests if we fight we talk
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about it but before all that I was
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really into like and required that love
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and short-term relationships and always
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from these relationships I elicit
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feelings of like butterflies and over
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shirt a short term of time but then with
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this boyfriend I was in that moment but
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we’re like more than a year already but
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I get the feeling and I’m afraid that it
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might have dwindled a little the
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butterflies and everything you offer him
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for me to him but he really puts me in a
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pedestal which is great but that’s the
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thing like is it because I’m not so used
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to being in a long-term relationship
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that’s why I feel that way okay this is
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a great question look firstly the level
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of butterflies you have over the course
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of a relationship may fluctuate what you
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don’t want is a situation where it’s
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just a downward trend right it might be
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there’s a
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where your busy your stress something’s
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going on and there’s something that gets
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in the way of the two of you having the
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same desire whatever those things happen
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right especially over a course of many
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years or decades but you don’t want a
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situation where the two of you just give
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in to this decline in desire over your
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relationship that I don’t buy so what
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you have to do is be fairly self aware
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and say what is it about previous
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situations or maybe even about the
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beginning of this relationship that did
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create butterflies for me what was that
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because that wasn’t that may have felt
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like an accident but there’s a formula
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for creating desire right sometimes for
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example we go to a party with our
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significant other and we just watch them
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talk to a group of people and for that
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moment we’re not standing next to them
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together with them
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we’re able to observe and the
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observation of our partner working a
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room and just being charming on their
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own separate from us can be very sexy
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Carney’s everyone follow me can that be
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a sexy moment when we see our partner
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from afar and not from up close you go
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oh wow he’s a sexy guy you know I mean
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it’s like seeing your partner perform or
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do something or give a speech it’s like
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oh look they’re a person they’re not
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just mine they’re a person and when I
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see them as an individual again I’m made
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more aware of the space that actually
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exists between us desire exists in space
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so what many of us do is we have desire
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for someone we then close down all of
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the space until there’s no longer any
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space and now the fire of desire cannot
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breathe anymore it needs oxygen and we
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wonder why why where the butterflies go
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they need space to breathe
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so I would be looking at what what were
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the circumstances under which those
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butterflies existed before what were the
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moments where you watched him separate
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from you and said that is an attractive
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man
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and how could I recreate some of those
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moments and how could I a jerk ate him
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on how to recreate some of those moments
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because sometimes we want our partners
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to be mind reader’s about everything all
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right I need I want to have butterflies
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again and you’re supposed to just know
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how to do that and any time you get a
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clue because you may not even know
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everything consciously but anytime you
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get a clue ah that gives me that feeling
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note that down what was it about that
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okay let me now create more of that let
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me talk to him about that I really liked
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when you did this you have to do that
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really turned me on when you did that
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and by the way use the right language to
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write if you say it was nice when you
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did that all right may have you say that
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turned me on when you did that I had
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someone say to me it turns me on that
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you’re expressive in your texts it’s so
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hot which by the way you wouldn’t
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normally it’s like I wouldn’t normally
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think that was this is a turn-on but
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this person said it was such a turn-on
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that you’re really expressive in your
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texts well as a man when you hear that
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you go I wanna I’m gonna be expressive
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in every single text I send out if
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someone said it’s really not I think
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it’s really nice that you are expressive
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yeah it’s a turn-on it’s hot you use
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desire language now you’re creating
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something I want to do more of because
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guess what he wants to turn you on he
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wants to know how to do that in a better
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way he wants Clues you don’t have to
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make him feel small by telling him like
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it doesn’t have to be an education it
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could just be you constantly letting him
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know that things that work for you and
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he’ll learn that roadmap learn more of
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that roadmap learn more of that roadmap
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and all of a sudden he has this whole
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formula for how to get you but you have
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to help him with that
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makes sense makes sense or not all right
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thank you so much Thank You Matthew
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let’s keep going let’s have a couple
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more
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